Sad, but Blessed News

[Deans BMW]

As most of you knew, I have been going back and forth to Lufkin in East Texas to deal with various issues legal and health wise with my mother.

She passed several hours ago a sad and good occurrence at the same time. A peaceful end to pain and suffering. We have been aware for the last 3 or 4 days that it was just a matter of time.

When Mz Pam and I lost everything some 14 years ago, my Mom was the one who suggested that we sell everything that we had and move to our land out in the country and start our adventure anew. With a few well chosen words she turned a giant negative and sense of falure in our lives to a positive beyond our wildest imagination. I would call her every day and tell her how we slowly turned the little 16x24 cabin into a home, she loved every minute of it as at heart she loved the challenge of our country home with out any utilities taking shape by the sweat of our own brow. Mom was a self taught Architect and couldn't get enough of what we were doing.

She will be missed

[Griffon]

Dean,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. She'll be in our thoughts and prayers here. Please let me know if there is anything I can do!

JG

[BobFV1]

RIP Mom - Rest in peace.

Stay strong - Dean-O. Your bros in the Cafe are always with you.

[mnnden]

Dean, sad to hear of your loss, our thoughts will be with you. Den

[isiahstites]

Dean as many have said, we are sad to hear about your loss. You, Mz Pam and your mom will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Scott

[ROUNDEL]

Dean, our deepest condolences. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. May god bless you and your family.

If there is anything you need as I am local let me or any of your AZ cafe' brothers know.

[Arby]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss Dean. From what you've said, your mom was a wonderful person who lived a full life. May she rest in peace.

RB

[Rchop]

Dean, so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing, may she rest in peace. I hope you and Pam continue to receive the blessings she gave you when she was here with us.
Our prayers are with you...
Randy and Deb

[Gord]

Dean - condolences on the passing of your mother. Although there is some relief that her suffering is over, I know that there is immense sadness at the moment. Memories of the past and knowing that her guiding influence will carry you the future will help to ease the pain over time. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

[panthercity]

From our family to yours. Prayers and condolences.

[beekstersocal]

sorry for your loss ,dean,
behind every good man is a mother that guided him to that point ,without my mom i am not sure things would be the same for me ,may she rest in peace

[Biff's R]

Sorry to hear about you loss Dean.

[Optimus Prime]

our condolences, Dean

[Capt. Blackadder]

Sad, but blessed sounds about right, given what you've told us here, Dean. May your mom rest in peace. :wilted_rose:

[DarthRider]

"Sad, but blessed news" indeed, old friend.
I wish I could have known your Mom, she sounds like quite the Texas Lady.
You should be pleased and comforted in all you did to make her last days...better. And somehow, you just know she knew.
We'll be thinking of you, Pam and your sister.
Dave & Betty

[Pacific]

Taking her advice and rebuilding your life is a great tribute to your mother. Blessings.

Jay

[Tassie Devil]

Please accept our condolences Dean. Sorry to hear of your loss...

Kind regards,

JQ.

[DJ Down Under]

Sad news Dean.. I know how you must feel.

DJ

[JCsman]

Always sad when a cornerstone of all you are is lost. But, as you noted, some times these things are a blessing. We'll have you and Mz. Pam in our thoughts.

[supermotoC]

Life gives & it takes, and the roller coaster goes on, with or without us.

My sympathies to you & Pam, I went through this in 2004, and no matter how much you steele yourself against the tide... It is a blessing in disguise, but an ugly mask it can wear. Be strong, take each day 1 step at a time (although I already know you do this). She's in a better place now, and she was around long enough to see you BUILD your better place.

[Boxerboy]

Dean, sad news but please accept my best wishes.

[socalrob]

My dad passed away this last summer. I know how you feel Dean and hope that you can take some solace in having a nice celebration of her life. My extended family had a good time all together in my mom's house pouring over old photos (we put them together in a power point slide show that the church cycled through several times prior to the service), writing the obit, and all the other stuff. It was wearing but cathartic all at the same time. There truly is a circle of life.

[Dirty Doug]

Dean,
You and your Mom are in my heart and prayers.:pftroest:


Dirty Doug

[Promethean]

Please accept my condolences, Dean!

[NakedRider]

Dean, I'm sorry to hear of your loss but it sounds like you have many fond memories which will last forever.

[SV Andy]

Sad news Dean please accept my condolences.

[fganger]

Dean lad,

I sort of know how you may feel, I lost my mom a number of years ago yet every once-in-a-while her memory comes back to me and I remember her last days all over again. Bonnie tells me that the feelings I get - which still brings tears to my eyes may never go away. Well you know what, I don't really care. When the tears come it is like she is still with me - not too bad.

Dean I'm so sorry that anyone has to go through times like this, but you know what? No one asked me . . .:icon_redface:

Stinkin' Frank

[Blackdog]

Sorry to hear that Dean. Both my parents and my wife's are still with us, there in their 80's now. My mother-in-law is the worst off, she has congestive heart failure and is rehab now recovering from a broken pelvis (she has broken both hips, wrist and arm in the last 3 years due to falls). We do as much as we can with the folks now knowing were on bonus time. We do whatever it takes to make them comfortable and happy.

I'm sure she's in a better place now.

[Ed K]

Dean,

Just checking in after being away a few days... and very sorry to hear the news.

From reading your post, its clear your Mom was someone very special.

My prayers are with you, Mz. Pam, and your family.

[Deans BMW]

Friends, those ment and those to be ment, both Mz Pam and my self thank everyone for all of your sentements, the "Cafe" is truly an extended family and for that we are more than grateful for all that you have given to us.

[Elsie Smith]

Dear Dean, just reading about your mother. Condolences and you and your family are in my prayers.

[Capt. Nemo]

For sending off our parents who have more or less beat the odds.
Sorry for your loss, Dean. And, I like many surely understand the thought and feelings behind your thread title.
My mom has been living w/ Alzheimer's disease for 10 years. She got it fairly late in life at 80, and she is now 90. The last three years and especially the last 8 months have been tough. It's sad to see a healthy old body trapped in a mind dead brain. Nonetheless, mom has lived a long and happy life, and now that she has lived in diapers, and has been fed by others for a year now, and knows no one including herself, a sad but blessed message is even what she would desire now in her present state.
Yes... It is our time and turn in life, and for those of our aged loved ones that have been blessed with exteneded years of life.

[AZBMWRIDER]

Dean, my condolences to you and your family on your loss...

[Tipstall]

Dean,

Thinking of you and your mom.

Ken

[Donson]

Dean,I have been gone to the left cost playing motorcycles,just logged in and saw thet Your Mom passed.My sincere condolences to You,and Your family.Mom is in a better place now.